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Your last relationship: How long did it last? Scale of 1-10 how badly did it end?


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Old 20th September 2017, 6:44 AM   #91
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Old 20th September 2017, 11:11 AM   #92
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Wow, I f didn't know better, I would have guessed I wrote this. Sounds exactly likw what I went thru, eerie..........
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Old 21st September 2017, 10:26 PM   #93
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Good thread. Last was 7 month with 2/10 pain. Really didn't see future with her cause she was 9 years older and had a kid. So break up was easy

But prior dated another for 3 month, she was great I still want her now breakup was 7/10 because I dumped her and regretted it ever since.. one bad night of talking 2nd playing games ended a great thing.
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Old 21st September 2017, 11:16 PM   #94
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5 months.

10/10

When we broke up, we hugged, we cried, & said I love you to each other one last time. The saddest part of all was seeing myself slowly letting go of her hand. In my eyes, it was a visual representation of us letting go of one another.

Once she drove off, I fell to the floor and cried till I had nothing left in me.

A little piece of me died that night. A piece of me that only she can resurrect.

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Old 3rd October 2017, 1:38 AM   #95
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Old 3rd October 2017, 7:44 AM   #96
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I give mine a 9/10. He never cheated or verbally abused me, but he did give me insensitive responses when his depression hit. It just REALLY hurts because what we had was real, but he just couldn't get past his old coping mechanisms (avoidance, trust issues, etc.). I was the target of his depression because I was the most trusted person to him and I almost lost myself in depression too. It really is contagious.

It turned him into someone I don't recognize anymore. He just wasn't strong enough to change when he was with me and just chose to run away from our close relationship and got into a new one to fill his desperate need to be validated in some way and in order to feel again.

When he let me go, it felt like my heart was eviscerated from the inside where he took his place in, leaving a gaping, bleeding hole. Now I'm just trying to pick up the pieces of myself again and grow. I'm coming to terms that not everyone wants to be helped. I still love him dearly... but I have to turn my head away as he goes down a path where he'll eventually fall.

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Old 3rd October 2017, 8:28 AM   #97
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My last official relationship lasted nearly 8 years, 6 of those married. 4/10 on the pain scale. I din't love him, so I didn't feel that hurt. My pain was based on fear of the unknown and concern for my children.
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Old 3rd October 2017, 9:13 AM   #98
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My last "official" relationship I should say lasted nearly 3 years. The relationship (for me) was amazing. I thought I was going to marry the guy, as did all of my family and friends. The break up was a 10/10 for me.

Long story short, we started dating my freshman year of college, he was a junior. Dated throughout college, when he graduated he moved across the country and we continued a LDR. Eventually it became too much and he broke up with me over FaceTime. I was heartbroken and it took me at least a year, if not longer to fully get over him. Of course there were rebounds but nothing really ever compared to the love I felt for him. I know it sounds cliche, but he really was my best friend. When we broke up, the idea of one day getting back together if our lives realigned was thrown out there. We both had the same goal to end up in the same city one day.

Anyway, looking back I realize how one-sided the relationship was. I was young and immature, at the time had a low sex-drive because of the antidepressants I was on, and I took and took and took from that relationship. Of course I did my best to show him love in the ways that I knew how, but I can't blame him for breaking up with me and wondering what else is out there because our relationship was essentially sexless. I lost my virginity to him and yeah the antidepressants killed my sex drive and made intercourse painful. We tried to work through it, but it just wasn't possible for me at the time.

I am thankful for the breakup because it gave me the chance to really experience college....go through my party stage, going out with girlfriends and flirting with any guy I wanted. I got off my antidepressants and realized I actually have a crazy sex drive so it was good for me to experience that too. At least get it out of my system too...

He really was my dream guy though. I can't say an ill word about him. I honestly believe it was the right person, wrong time type of situation.

Anyway, odd thing, he just accepted a job in the city where we both wanted to live. I have been interviewing out there quite a bit as well. We recently crossed paths. I am skeptical and hesitant, but it is interesting to me that we're back in communication. Years ago I would have done ANYTHING to get him to talk to me again. Now it's actually happening so it's just a bit surprising. Still figuring out how I will proceed, but definitely with caution. I figure if it's meant to be it'll happen, I'm not pushing anything.
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Old 3rd October 2017, 5:08 PM   #99
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Relationship lasted 17 years.
Breakup I'd say an easy 9 out of 10. He blindsided me and has been an absolute prick to me ever since. I was suicidal over it a few times but hoping I'm over that part now. Let the arse figure out what he's lost. I couldn't be bothered wasting any more of my time crying over him.
That said, I still dream about him and wake up missing him. But it's only been 5 weeks since the breakup and 4 days of full NC so gotta give myself a break on that and take it day by day.
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Old 3rd October 2017, 5:18 PM   #100
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My last official relationship lasted nearly 8 years, 6 of those married. 4/10 on the pain scale. I din't love him, so I didn't feel that hurt. My pain was based on fear of the unknown and concern for my children.
Why on Earth would you stay with someone you don't love for 8 years?
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Old 4th October 2017, 8:07 AM   #101
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Why on Earth would you stay with someone you don't love for 8 years?
Long story, but basically I was young, we were having casual sex, I had a birth control failure due to antibiotics for a lung infection causing the Pill to be less effective, and I married him to "do the right thing" for the baby. I thought I could tough it out until the baby was mostly grown and then I had a condom failure and got pregnant with #2. When the kids were 6 and 1, I just couldn't do it anymore.
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Old 4th October 2017, 8:44 AM   #102
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Just broke up with one after 5 months. She had an active plan to decide whether or not she wanted to move halfway across the world (which included a trip to that country in February) but wanted me to put my life on hold and commit to being in a relationship until she decided after the trip whether or not she wanted to move. 5/10 breakup. Doubtful we'll ever talk to each other again.
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Old 4th October 2017, 7:18 PM   #103
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7,5 months. it ended semi badly. he was nice about it but i kinda hated him for it. i was hurting for a month or two, gladly not too long, because i knew he'd come around. when he did, it was too late and i was in love with someone new.
so the breakup was more like a 3/10 severity wise.
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Old 4th October 2017, 9:45 PM   #104
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A little while ago, was about 3 months but my first relationship. Was about 3/10 as I could see the signs in the final couple of weeks (she seemed less into me, dates became less regular, struggled to connect). Still hurt but once I was out I realised she was completely the wrong person for me.
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Old 4th October 2017, 10:59 PM   #105
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6 months this time with a 24 year break in between when I had dated her for 9 months when I was 19. She was my first serious girlfriend and love. It ended with a 10, she left me for a guy who she knew in high school. She went from clingy, insecure and scared (which I loved, I loved all of her) after her second failed marriage to a cold coward who dumped me over the phone and gave me some absurd story as to why we broke up. I knew she was lying. I told her so, and eventually found out what I originally suspected....there was another guy.

I'm totally screwed up now lol, but such is life and I knew better but of course. I put her on a pedestal, I could tell I was a "rebound" and I never thought she would betray me...I burnt some bridges to protect myself and am moving halfway across the country. I went from ecstatic to miserable when I was totally blindsided.

It did wonders for my already bad trust issues, so 10. I lost someone I loved very much, and who had been a friend for 24 years. I should also mention I had just found out my father had cancer.

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