Otter2569 Posted February 7, 2016 Share Posted February 7, 2016 Its over (for the second time). The last few months were very volatile with lots of emotional chaos. She was fighting depression and it was a total **** show. Its been almost a month with no contact. I have a few things of hers that I am thinking of sending back (bikini, bra, toiletries). I go back and forth on how to approach this: - get rid of the stuff (throw it out) - box it up and give myself more time for closure - mail it back to her with no note or commentary of any kind - send it back with a sarcastic note My better judgement is not to do anything at the moment but eventually I will need to address this. What would you do? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 7, 2016 Share Posted February 7, 2016 Box it up. Mail it back to her with an inventory. The only personal line should be Her name -- Enclosed please find the following items of yours which I found after we broke up: 1. 2. 3. With all finality, Otter 2 Link to post Share on other sites
marky00 Posted February 7, 2016 Share Posted February 7, 2016 Its over (for the second time). Its been almost a month with no contact. I have a few things of hers that I am thinking of sending back (bikini, bra, toiletries). LOL, the bra and bikini thing kind of made me laugh. Something tells me its going to be awkward for both of you guys given the items involved. Might be best to let that ship sail with 99.9% of its cargo. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted February 7, 2016 Author Share Posted February 7, 2016 Its a hot ass bikini too - very colorful I am tempted to hang onto it but i'm sure thats not a good thing either! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted February 7, 2016 Author Share Posted February 7, 2016 Donovan, I appreciate your feedback but honestly I would rather not put that much into it. Either and empty package or "you are the most negative person I have ever met - good luck". I do feel resentful at how I was mistreated and i am a little mad at myself for putting up with it. I'm sure the bigger thing to do is not say anything at all. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 7, 2016 Share Posted February 7, 2016 The effort & the list protects you from a future claim by her that you stole something. It's a CYA thing. Don't keep the bikini. Doing to makes you seem creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted February 7, 2016 Share Posted February 7, 2016 What d0nnivain said. Just send it back with no note other than an inventory list. Link to post Share on other sites
Cherryz Posted February 7, 2016 Share Posted February 7, 2016 Lol. if its really over, just send her stuff with the postman. And move on. Dont trow it away. People like to start drama about stuff they left at your house. Even thou it have nothing to do with their stuff. lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted February 7, 2016 Author Share Posted February 7, 2016 The list has it! Thx!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted February 7, 2016 Author Share Posted February 7, 2016 You may or may not find this amusing: I was just going through the toiletries she has here and i found her toothbrush. Last time she was over she said the toothbrush was "not" hers and implied it belonged to another woman. I'm almost positive I bought it for her since we were together for a while and I did not have any "toothbrush" worthy relationships during our time together. Thought I would throw the toothbrush in just for kicks Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted February 7, 2016 Share Posted February 7, 2016 Thought I would throw the toothbrush in just for kicks That is just being passive aggressively nasty and is not necessary. Just throw the toothbrush away and move on already. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
DarkHorizon Posted February 7, 2016 Share Posted February 7, 2016 Just send it back without a note in it. Saying something nasty won't get you anywhere, and honestly, won't even give you any pleasure once it is mailed. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted February 7, 2016 Share Posted February 7, 2016 Don't be snarky. No one wins - you or her. I'd just put it in a box and leave it somewhere. If she contacts you and asks for it sometime, fine, if not, fine. It's not like you've got her car and her tv. (Also keep the bikini haha. I think we discussed that before. ) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted February 7, 2016 Author Share Posted February 7, 2016 Ha ha Jen, great minds! And yes we did - that was the bra. The bikini is much hotter!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted February 7, 2016 Share Posted February 7, 2016 Donovan, I appreciate your feedback but honestly I would rather not put that much into it. Either and empty package or "you are the most negative person I have ever met - good luck". I do feel resentful at how I was mistreated and i am a little mad at myself for putting up with it. I'm sure the bigger thing to do is not say anything at all.There you go, personal responsibility for you how you got treated more than once. If you're mad at yourself, don't take it out on her. Just a list, typed is preferable. I'd even skip the greeting and closing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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