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Hey guys, pretty self explanatory here, iv been in proper NC for like 2 or so months now, that being said, i just dont think i feel anything towards my ex. Granted i have the memories from our relationship, but thats it, it never goes beyond that anymore. Heart still jumps when i see someone who i think is her etc. but im losing the ability to care for her, shes not on my mind as constantly as she was or used to be.

 

I do consider myself to still be recovering, but i dont know confused feelings maybe? I had a similar situation just after the break up, a feeling of numbness, but then i got hit by emotion, is this what i should expect here too?

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Good for you man!

 

I have felt the same in the end: Indifference towards my ex. But in between i had stages of anger, hatred and many more. For me indifference was the last stage; just not caring anymore. I think numbness is one of the first stages, do not fool this one for indifference.

 

But then again it depends on how long you were together as well. Being indifferent after two months is quite fast (for me though after 2 years RS).

 

Also I have had some fallbacks at random times, but they get less and less as time goes on.

 

Keep NC!

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Good for you man!

 

I have felt the same in the end: Indifference towards my ex. But in between i had stages of anger, hatred and many more. For me indifference was the last stage; just not caring anymore. I think numbness is one of the first stages, do not fool this one for indifference.

 

But then again it depends on how long you were together as well. Being indifferent after two months is quite fast (for me though after 2 years RS).

 

Also I have had some fallbacks at random times, but they get less and less as time goes on.

 

Keep NC!

 

Thanks man, i really dont know where to put it, iv had some brilliant additions and changes to my life since the break up in terms of friends etc. We were together say 6-7 years, and yup i went through all of the anger and hate and then crying etc. to where i am now, so yes thats why i am concerned, as i dont want to hit that emotional cycle again, damn looking back i feel embarrassed!

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Thanks man, i really dont know where to put it, iv had some brilliant additions and changes to my life since the break up in terms of friends etc. We were together say 6-7 years, and yup i went through all of the anger and hate and then crying etc. to where i am now, so yes thats why i am concerned, as i dont want to hit that emotional cycle again, damn looking back i feel embarrassed!

 

I think we all have relapses including one or a variety of emotions. There are many articles on the Internet regarding the stages of grief after a break-up, but in the end they all end in indifference / total acceptance. I am currently also indifferent, but at times i still feel sad or angry, just less intense then in the (very) beginning.

 

If I were you, I wouldn't worry over what stages or emotions are yet to come on your path. Truth is when it comes, you deal with it. I tend to listen to my emotions and just allow them. I think that's the healthiest way. Don't be too hard on yourself, it's natural to grief for any human, nothing embarrassing about that. Allthough I have done some stupid things like begging and pleading, and when I look back, I wish i never did it. But hey I learned my lesson and moved on.

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Thanks man, i really dont know where to put it, iv had some brilliant additions and changes to my life since the break up in terms of friends etc. We were together say 6-7 years, and yup i went through all of the anger and hate and then crying etc. to where i am now, so yes thats why i am concerned, as i dont want to hit that emotional cycle again, damn looking back i feel embarrassed!

 

Wow seeker..6 - 7 years R/S and you're healing. I wish I will reach the place where you are right now soon too. (my R/S of 7 years)

 

Sigh..I really do not hope to pine for this person for years..that is my biggest fear..

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Wow seeker..6 - 7 years R/S and you're healing. I wish I will reach the place where you are right now soon too. (my R/S of 7 years)

 

Sigh..I really do not hope to pine for this person for years..that is my biggest fear..

 

 

I have to, to be honest, for myself and my family. I know for a fact that it just wont work with my ex, not her fault. So in terms of closure iv pretty much accepted it. Trust me LYNNLH you will get there, sooner or later, accept what has come to pass, and be you.

 

For a month or so after the break up, i tried to be someone who i was not, but now, i see the old me coming back again, and im feeling more happier, content, its how NC Thomas said, when i do have a situation with my ex, which i have had such as bumping into her, it does send me into a slight spiral, and i hate it, i hate sometimes feeling the way i feel for my ex, especially when i know its going nowhere with her.

 

But i guess as NC Thomas said, just deal with it and allow it.

 

You need to get out there, be you, and do what you love, i really have made some amazing friends etc. the past few months, socialising has been a great helper for my recovery so far.

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Really is nice to have you pop up on here, yup i can remember you from when i was going through my rollercoaster!!! There were definitely a few people who joined and we shared our journeys with eachother, support and advice, i do still wonder where those people have gone and how they are getting on!!

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Really is nice to have you pop up on here, yup i can remember you from when i was going through my rollercoaster!!! There were definitely a few people who joined and we shared our journeys with eachother, support and advice, i do still wonder where those people have gone and how they are getting on!!

 

Glad you're doing fine in your healing. I've been here approximately the same time as you, have been in NC for almost three months. I was on my road to recovery when my ex showed up begging for another chance last week, now I'm confused.

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I'm in a similar position, got out of a 5 year relationship, been in NC for about 3 months, I know shes already dating someone else but now I'm at the point where I just don't care anymore. Good for her if she has a good thing going, if not i really couldn't care less. Didn't think it would only take 3 months, I thought i would be stuck in the limbo of emotions forever but i guess i accepted it and realized we weren't right for eachother plus the way she treated me in the end, I know my worth and didn't deserve that. I guess all that made it easier to move on.

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