Mizz Layta Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 I still care about my ex as person and I find myself wanting to reach out just to say hi. However, I decided to go NC because we kept going back and of the then I found out he is seeing someone else. It hurt like hell so I told him its best we go separate ways then I changed my number and deleted my fb. Now I am missing him more since I closed the lines of communication. I still care about him as person and still killing me cutting him out of life. will I always care about him as person? Link to post Share on other sites
flightplan Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 Sure you will, but it will fade. The void you feel now will be replaced as you fill your life with new experiences, meet new people and form new relationships. I still have fond memories of my ex's but don't feel a need to contact them. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Marco Valerio Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 You might still care for him in the future, but it will come to a point where he will become a fade memory. Give it some time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Jenmarie Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 You might still care for him in the future, but it will come to a point where he will become a fade memory. Give it some time. Very well said. I was with someone for 3 years and he broke up with me. I was devastated and heartbroken. He was my first everything and I felt like I would always care about him. We were friends for 2 years before our 3 year relationship, so for a quarter of my life at the time. He was very important to me. I felt like I would always care about him romantically and miss him. However, now, he is a faded memory. I mean I still care about him as a person but none of it is romantic and I don't think of our past together. He is just a faded memory and I found someone special, which made me realize why I didn't work out with said person. It takes time. Focus on you, live your life. He'll eventually become a faded memory and you'll lose the urge to contact him and you'll find someone who will show you what you deserve. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 I still care in the sense that I don't harbor ill will toward them & hope they are happy. It's nice when I bump into them & can catch up but it would be awkward to reach out. Link to post Share on other sites
Marco Valerio Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 Hello Jenmarie: Congrats, I'm so happy for you =) . It's nice to read that you've moved on and have found someone better. I know what you were feeling at the time. I'm living the exact situation just now. Sometimes feels unbearable, impossible to make it through. I find myself missing the person who I loved the most and who betrayed me deeply. But I'm going with it, still here, hoping one day I can say the same you've said. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 I think after a while of no communication you start to care less. Not that you don't care about them but because you just don't think of them that much anymore. I think I will always care about my ex and have that lingering, slight yearning to have him in my life as a friend. I do miss him as a friend. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
lauren13 Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 I guess it depends on how the relationship was and ended. I don't know your story, but funny enough I don't care about my longest relationship (5 years); at the time he was my everything and first guy I loved, but he kept breaking my heart over and over again. We had on and off periods as well until I finally moved on. Now years later I found out he got married over the summer and I couldn't care less what's happening with his life; felt nothing. On the other hand; I still care about a few of my shorter relationships/flings who were all great people, just timing was always off. Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 No you won't. Ironically the ones who loved me the most are the ones who I Care the least for . 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Elle1975 Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 Considering how short life is, I sure hope not. Total waste of energy. Now if it was one of those things where you kept a good memory of the guy, like an amicable break up (as amicable as break ups can be), why not. Nothing wrong with that. Link to post Share on other sites
Ieris Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Hmm.. I know I don't. I don't even remember some of their faces and names even though I was crazy about at the time... I'm too busy replacing bad things with good things! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 I can't speak for everyone, but in my case? Nope. Don't care about my exes at all. There was one I cared about for a long time after we broke up, but this past summer I put that to bed. There is one of my ex's as well...if he for some reason... lets say, got run over by a car, and then was accidentally lit on fire? I would not even blink. Link to post Share on other sites
Detectingfreak Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 My ex was my first and only relationship i will have. I have given myself to her and it was supposed to be really special but she didnt think so. After my breakup a year ago, Ive vowed to only love the porn goddess and watch lesbian porn. That way no one in either party gets hurt by breakups anymore. It is working out extremly well. I often think about my ex and how I am glad i had the oppurtunity to have sex snd share a connection with someone. I had four previous heart surgeries and didnt think it would happen but it did. I had my chance and am very thankful Link to post Share on other sites
Marco Valerio Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Hmm.. I know I don't. I don't even remember some of their faces and names even though I was crazy about at the time... I'm too busy replacing bad things with good things! Good !!!! that's the spirit !!!! =) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Depends on how emotionally invested, needy or clingy you are. Link to post Share on other sites
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