coralsmith Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 (edited) I'm really baffled by this strange gesture from my ex. I know I shouldn't analyze things, but I just hate not knowing! He broke up with me months ago. We stayed in contact, though not much. I saw him on a few occasions due to him collecting stuff and having mutual friends. He never really kissed me on the cheek while we were dating, but he started doing it on those occasions - hold my hand and kiss me on the cheek. We had a row and I decided to go no-contact. I bumped into him on a night out - he was pretty drunk. He didn't say anything, just took my hand and kissed me on the cheek. It seems like such a weird gesture, especially since we'd argued and I'm not on good terms with him. It was completely uninvited and inappropriate. I broke NC to ask him not to do it again. Why on earth would you kiss someone on the cheek after no contact for over a month?! Edited July 27, 2014 by coralsmith Link to post Share on other sites
Smarty Pants Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 To mess with you. Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 He could be messing with you, but why inappropriate? If genuine, it could have been a friendly "hello" kiss. He may not have done it in the past, but that's b/c he was dating you, not just friends. Anyway, you broke NC to tell him not to instead of telling him the next time you met or simply avoided the kiss. Me thinks you want to get back together, no? Link to post Share on other sites
Mary Oak Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 I do this with exes but don't do it with current gfs. It is a gesture to say hello but means nothing more. Not even friendship.. Just a motion to fill the gap so I am not uncomfortable. Don't sweat it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author coralsmith Posted July 27, 2014 Author Share Posted July 27, 2014 definitely don't want to get back together! I just felt indignant because it felt like a bit of a violation of space, if that makes sense. He'd done some things which made me lose a lot of respect for him. He's not the person I thought he was and I don't like the person he has proven himself to be. So the kiss felt inappropriate because I had told him this and that I didn't want further contact with him. When I meet with him, it's been in a group, so I'm civil, but for the most part don't interact with him directly. I didn't avoid the kiss, I wasn't expecting it at so I was taken aback, I just walked away from him. It was in the middle of a club dancefloor so it wasn't exactly needed to fill an awkward silence! Link to post Share on other sites
Mary Oak Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 It doesn't mean anything. If it bothers you that much, don't put your Body in a position that he can do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Survivor12 Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 If someone I was estranged from were to do that to me, I would take it as an offer of peace...nothing more, nothing less. Link to post Share on other sites
irresolute Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 It's just nothing. Or he may want to mess with you. Just tell him not to do it anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
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