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I have a childhood friend that I dont see often anymore. I run into him a couple times a year. The last couple of times I ran into him, I was with my ex.

 

I saw him at a bar last week and he said "hey man, good job with the girl. She's really cool and absolutely beautiful".

 

I couldn't bring myself to tell him we broke up, and ever since I've been really bothered by this. I don't even know why but when I got home I thought I was going to have a nervous break down.

 

I was on the verge of getting over the hump but now I feel really set back. Anything like this happen to anyone else? Any insights?

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Credered I have read most of your previous post and you seem to be a real mature guy with a confident personality , don't let this bother you , you are better than this trust me . Probably his comment brought memories about her and maybe he thinks she is a great catch but she wasn't a match for you .

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SweetiePie12
Anything like this happen to anyone else? Any insights?

 

Yes! A week after we had the big explosive discussions that ended us, I took a weekend trip with two aunts.

 

Aunt: "So. Do you still have a boyfriend?"

 

Me: "I really don't want to talk about it right now."

 

Aunt: "But...do you?" :mad:

 

It was only months later that I was able to explain to her that my pain was still very, very raw.

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Mm yeah, I've experienced something similar with a mutual friend a while ago. It is awkward and I didn't quite know how to say we weren't together anymore so I just kind of ignored it... not the best solution but, eh.

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Thanks for the replies.

 

The thing is most people I am close to already know the situation. I don't understand why it was hard for me to explain to him my situation when it wasn't hard for me to explain it to others.

 

I think a part of it may be that I was so proud that I had a girl like that and couldn't bring myself to tell him I lost her.

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I think a part of it may be that I was so proud that I had a girl like that and couldn't bring myself to tell him I lost her.

 

Maybe she'll come back.

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Thanks for the replies.

 

The thing is most people I am close to already know the situation. I don't understand why it was hard for me to explain to him my situation when it wasn't hard for me to explain it to others.

 

I think a part of it may be that I was so proud that I had a girl like that and couldn't bring myself to tell him I lost her.

 

I absolutely know this feeling. I was so proud to have my ex, and I have a cousin who always brings up how hot/cool she was and asked if I was ever gonna get together with her again. I've always tried to play it off but its a pretty ****ty feeling

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