pineapples Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 (edited) I have been more than 8 months almost fully NC with ex, ever since he moved back to his home city and several thousand miles away from where I live. We are both in our thirties. He contacted me 4 times during this period. His first email came about 5 months after the break up (it was what you would call a typical, surprisingly long post-BU email a regretful dumper would send). I answered it with an extremely short reply of 3 sentences, wishing him all the best and good luck in life. About a month later he sent me 3 more emails that I completely ignored. My ex has always insisted on being friends, and now I feel like I can give him that - an 'idea' of friendship, because I know it would mean a lot to him. I know I will never see him again in this life (which is OK for me). I know that he loves attention and would be happy if I contacted him. I feel kind of sorry for him to be honest. I have absolutely no romantic feelings for him, but I feel a bit bad for not replying to his emails. So, what does Loveshack think about this, should I do it, yes or no? Edited February 15, 2013 by pineapples Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 This sounds like something only you can decide. If you are truly over him, then go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 If YOU want a friendship then go for it. Otherwise, no reason to contact, don't lead him on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pineapples Posted February 15, 2013 Author Share Posted February 15, 2013 Thanks. I wouldn't contact him if we still lived in the same city though. He betrayed me once as a partner, he might do it again as a friend. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Thanks. I wouldn't contact him if we still lived in the same city though. He betrayed me once as a partner, he might do it again as a friend. You've just answered your own question. It doesn't matter where he is, how far or near. If you suspect 'flakiness' then it's best to not pick at the scab. Link to post Share on other sites
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