Alsuna Posted February 4, 2013 Share Posted February 4, 2013 I was doing not so well the last 2 weeks of NC, was having weird dreams, and wasn't able to focus on my studies, work or anything in general. Was feeling pretty depressed. Just where I should be after the BU. Now he sends me a rather short and polite email, telling me that he passed his exams, he is doing crap emotionaly, but he will survive. Asked if he should send me my letters i received, and wishes me good luck with my studies. The email made me sick in the stomach, and me cry a bit. But I did better than I expected. Now how do i proceed from here. I know I'm better off without him, I don't really need the letters either. Do I reply anything at all? I don't want him to keep feeding me breadcrumbs if I answer. He broke up with me, I want to get over him with as little damage as possible. However getting in contact is unavoidable, as I still have to move from our place, and we still have to settle some money/contract stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted February 4, 2013 Share Posted February 4, 2013 No sweetheart, do not acknowledge or respond to that... Please read my No Contact Guide (updated 2013) in my signature (link). I know it's painful, but when you need to discuss practicalities with him, stick entirely to 'business matters'. In other words, don't placate him, don't engage in small talk or chit-chat. Just focus on the important. Like this, for example..... HIM: Hi, just wondering if you want to meet up this weekend to come and pick up your stuff... I'd love to see you, and i hope we can still keep in touch and be friends...I'll be at the apartment on saturday afternoon, how about coming round at say 2pm, and then maybe we can get a coffee....?" You: I'll see you there at half past two. I can remove most of the stuff, but will probably need a second call for the rest. Se what I did there.....? Then you engage the support of a friend, go pick up your stuff, keep talk with him to an absolute minimum, and leave. That's it. Done. Read the Guide. It WILL help, because the guide itself is followed by a number of posts dealing with post-BU contact..... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alsuna Posted February 4, 2013 Author Share Posted February 4, 2013 I guess I dont reply anything then. Even I really have to keep myself back not writing him to f*ck off. I'm still so mad at him. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted February 4, 2013 Share Posted February 4, 2013 Aw, good for you.... Consider it done, even if it is only on LS.... Cold Comfort I know, but the one thing that does get to them, is the silence, the No Contact, the lack of response..... If he sends you more - do likewise. He will get the hint sooner rather than later..... Link to post Share on other sites
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