nekoxchaos Posted December 20, 2009 Share Posted December 20, 2009 It hasn't been that long yet ( about 2 months ) since my breakup, im a bit bothered by a few things.... I just want to know if its ok to ask my ex if there's any possibility of talking things out.. if not now but in the future. He tells me to move on and let it go ... that theres nothing to talk about. Besides a mutual friend of mines tells me to just move on it was so long ago... ( 2 months ago ) ;( and we've been going out for a year I feel like its easy for him to say, im struggling to move on to be honest .... we would talk sometimes... and maybe it's my mistake to remain in contact. But the conversations would be really fun with hints of flirting and etc etc etc .... most of the times he would be the one to bring it up. Even during the relationship when we would get into fights, he would ignore the situation and pretend like everything was fine until the issue resurfaces or I just feel like im going crazy because I have to hold alot of things in. Is it wrong to ask to talk things out? I guess I'll just have to move on knowing I wasnt really worth anything to him. I never really got a good apology ;( but I guess I have to settle for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabella Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 I know the feeling. Ex walked out of the relationship without explanation and would refuse to talk. One month later, we still haven't talked and I still have no clue why we broke up. But, if you need an explanation... here is what it comes down to: he didn't want to be with you. If he had wanted to, he wouldn't have left you. That's all you need to know Arabella Link to post Share on other sites
jenifer1972 Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 Well, the dumper always holds all the cards, knows all the reasons, but unfortunately in life, they rarely want to spill the goods on the "why". It would be helpful to know, but sounds like he doesn't want to talk about it. So, if that is the case, usually there are some hints as to what went wrong. Do you know what they are? We all want "closure" and to know the "why" about painful things in life. Unfortunately, life is not real co-operative most of the time. Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 Is it wrong to ask to talk things out? I guess I'll just have to move on knowing I wasnt really worth anything to him. I never really got a good apology ;( but I guess I have to settle for it. It is not wrong, just worthless. You will not get what your looking for, any questions you ask will not lead to answers but just more questions. As best he unable to be honest with himself to be honest with you at worst he will be honest, either way you will feel worst afterwords then you do now. Trust me on that one. At this point it is not what he think it is all about what you think. That starts my focusing on yourself to prove your own value to yourself. Read the following, it will help you move on the best: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance? Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 It's not unreasonable to want to talk things through at all, but you can't make him if he doesn't want to. I would feel (even) worse if I hadn't been able to talk to my ex about what happened and how I/he felt, there would too many questions otherwise. Good luck hun It hasn't been that long yet ( about 2 months ) since my breakup, im a bit bothered by a few things.... I just want to know if its ok to ask my ex if there's any possibility of talking things out.. if not now but in the future. He tells me to move on and let it go ... that theres nothing to talk about. Besides a mutual friend of mines tells me to just move on it was so long ago... ( 2 months ago ) ;( and we've been going out for a year I feel like its easy for him to say, im struggling to move on to be honest .... we would talk sometimes... and maybe it's my mistake to remain in contact. But the conversations would be really fun with hints of flirting and etc etc etc .... most of the times he would be the one to bring it up. Even during the relationship when we would get into fights, he would ignore the situation and pretend like everything was fine until the issue resurfaces or I just feel like im going crazy because I have to hold alot of things in. Is it wrong to ask to talk things out? I guess I'll just have to move on knowing I wasnt really worth anything to him. I never really got a good apology ;( but I guess I have to settle for it. Link to post Share on other sites
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