Hi guys, this is my first post.
My minds pretty much made up. Think I just need to talk it out.
So I've been in a FWB situation with a co-worker for the last 10 months. It isn't working for me anymore (being a woman, I have gotten emotionally involved. So sue me
) so I've decided to end it.
I've thought about it before but not done anything, because the sex is great and I'm kinda addicted, but now seems like a perfect time as we have nowhere to do the deed for the next month or two anyway so I won't be relying on willpower alone.
I've been getting vibes (or maybe seeing them where they don't exist..) that he cares about a bit more than my body so I'm pretty much offering him a double or nothing deal. 'Take me on a couple of dates and call me your girlfriend before I sleep with you again'. I'm prepared to be disappointed.
My problem is that I can't go NC, our offices are next door to each other and we can't let this get in the way of our professional relationship. We're not in the same department but we have to work closely together at least once a fortnight.
I expect that the worst problem we'd face in working together/staying friends afterwards is that I'd always want to flirt when I know I shouldn't.
I need to end it in a way that's mature, friendly and subtle (ie, no yelling in the car park). The only face to face time we have apart from our 'sessions' is at work and I'm not going to discuss it there. Our work emails are also monitored so that doesn't work and I don't have his home email address.
I'm torn between calling him and risk crying on the phone, or printing the email I've written and handing it to him at work and hoping he has the sense to shred it before anyone else finds it. He has an assistant in the same office that could be hard to sneak it past.
In a normal relationship I'm pretty against dumping someone by text or email but is it still considered rude for a FWB? It doesn't sit well with me so I want to call him but fear that I'll undermine myself by getting upset.